June 25, 2016 – Number Three
June 25, 2016
We just left Cabin #3. It’s been our vacation getaway the 3rd week of June for several years. This was the last year of being a family of 3, next year our Pickles will be here and it will be SO different.
I was talking about this with a friend yesterday and he told me how he remembered the moment when it dawned on him that this is the last time our family will be exactly like this before each new child arrived. It’s a powerful moment, very filled with emotions as you realize change is coming.
The last few years, bedtime has been so easy… I Liam to bed by reading a few chapters of a book, giving some snoogles (Liam’s word for snuggles) and off he went into sleepy land – often me with him. What is a toddler going to be like? Liam was a mess in the sleeping department as a toddler… what if Pickles refuses to listen, eat, worst of all…SLEEP?
These three things I call the “Trifecta of Terror,” challenging every parents’ decision, marriage and sanity. A child who doesn’t sleep… ugh, that’s the worst. We found with Liam that each issue would feed into the other, keeping a delicate balance was nearly impossible.
I have to say that as excited as I am about being Pickles’ Forever Mama, I am terrified! Liam was a handful (to be kind) as a toddler. Bill and I tried so many things to keep the Trifecta of Terror in balance. Thankfully with consistency, prayer, some wine and a bit of maturity (for all parties) we survived. We have enjoyed parenting Liam so much, especially the last 6 1/2 years, he has been an absolute joy. He listens, he eats, he SLEEPS!
We saw some old friends from our Mom’s Group – who very kindly said they were glad to see Liam had outgrown the “Trifecta” issue. I had forgotten how we struggled through that time. We had friends and family who would take him so we could have a break, catch our breath and reconnect with each other. We have been blessed with such a wonderful support system.
I hope that knowing what we know now about parenting we can manage with much more grace. I know that another trifecta will be ever present as we go through these growing pains. I will learn to feel The Father’s loving hands as I rock my Pickles to sleep… I will see Jesus in the unconditional love my husband and son will show Pickles… I will hear the Holy Spirit tell me to hold back unnecessary words in stressful times.
When looking up verses on the Triune God, John 14:18 popped up…
“I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.”
I’m counting on it! (get my pun!?)